Sexual Intercourse: Let's All Be Brief and Average By Sue Katz, The Associated Press, under the headline "Sex Takes 3 to 13 Minutes," has given the world a sneak-peek at the science of quickies. A study to be published next month in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, based on a survey of sex therapists, concluded that the "optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes." For the full article: http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/04/02/sex.survey.ap/index.html?iref=mpstoryview

Betty's Thoughts: Study says “sex” (and by that they mean “penetration partnersex”) lasts from 3 to 13 min but that doesn’t include foreplay. Let me repeat what I said about "foreplay" in my book, Orgasms for Two: "It’s been my observation that a little appetizer of kissing, breast fondling, and clitoral touching before the main course of penetration is seldom enough to satisfy the sexual appetite of most red-blooded women. Just as she is getting excited from some form of direct clitoral contact, he stops and penetrates her vagina. While he is enjoying the ideal erotic sensation with his penis moving inside her, she is now struggling to get a little indirect clitoral contact, which can’t compare to consistent direct clitoral stimulation all the way to orgasm . Imagine a man being told that he will have a "mature oral orgasm" when his girlfriend penetrates his mouth with her clitoris. He must not reach down and touch his penis while she's fucking him in the mouth or she'll think her clitoris isn't big enough to satisfy him. To protect her feminine ego, he ends up faking a climax because he figures it's worth it to keep the peace. Later on he can masturbate in the bathroom, or if she's a sound sleeper, he can finish himself off in bed providing he can come while holding his breath and not moving to keep from waking her up."