Preface
Preface
How to Use the Magic Wand for Orgasm.
I have no reservations about teaching women to use an electric vibrator, especially if she's never had an orgasm. The strong, consistent stimulation from these massage machines can make up for years of sensory deprivation. The general fear about using a vibrator is not being able to have "normal sex" whatever that means. I urge women to let go of their romantic notions about getting every orgasms from a lover, and I urge men to let go of proving their good in bed by giving a woman her orgasm. Instead, couples can bring a variety of sextoys into the bedroom. They'll have a lot more fun as sex becomes more playful.
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1. Genital Massage
To maintain an ongoing visual relationship with my genitals, I begin some of my selfloving sessions in front of a free standing mirror. Trimming and shaping my pubic hair gives me a heightened awareness and appreciation for my genitals. As I oil and massage the entire area, I pull back the hood to expose my clitoris. Then, spreading my inner and outer labia, I admire the beauty and design of my vulva.
The PC or Pubococcygeus muscle goes around the anus, across the entire pelvic floor, and attaches in front to the pubic bone on both women and men. To locate this muscle, simply stop the flow of urine. A weak PC muscle will result in urinary incontinence. To keep my PC muscle toned, I consciously squeeze and release it during masturbation and partnersex to intensify each orgasm. These contractions can be felt in the anus, vagina, clitoris, and penis.
I feel it's important to do some form of regular penetration to aerate the vaginal barrel, stimulate lubrication, and to moisturize the vaginal interior with natural cold pressed oils. Although I'm not motivated to learn how to ejaculate, I love squeezing my PC muscle on a dildo (Betty Dodson's Vaginal Barbell is perfect for this), especially when I put pressure on my urethral sponge, or Female Prostate Gland. I prefer these names over G-Spot because they're less confusing.
Like any other athletic activity, achieving orgasm requires taking in plenty of oxygen to fuel a body in motion. Building up sexual excitement and pumping blood into my genitals means breathing fully, especially when I'm close to orgasm. There are many different breathing patterns. The most basic method is simply taking air in through my nose and exhaling out my mouth while making sounds of pleasure.
I experiment with different rhythms as I masturbate to music. Sex is the dance of love as I joyfully move my body, tensing and releasing different muscles, circling the hips, and thrusting with small motions or full pelvic swings. Gentle pelvic rocking can be perpetual motion throughout a selfloving session. Right after orgasm, my body naturally trembles and snaps with the after shocks and waves of pleasure.
Using plenty of lubrication, I start off with manual clitoral stimulation and then move onto the electric vibrator which is the strongest form of stimulation. To last longer, I use a washcloth over my clitoris to cushion the vibes. I vary the rhythm and the pressure on my clitoris, keeping a light touch until the very end just before I climax. When I have sex with a partner, my vibrator often joins us for a threesome.
Slow penetration, rhythmically squeezing the PC muscle, rocking the pelvis, and breathing out loud while using some form of clitoral stimulation will be different for each individual. Exploring my mind for erotic images, hot memories, or making up sexy stories heightens selfloving. Remember, variety and diversity spice up everyone's sexlife.
HERE'S WISHING YOU MANY HAPPY ORGASMS
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