Hello, Betty,

My girlfriend and I don't believe in premarital sex, but we have discovered a certain method that gets her off without any sexual contact at all. While we're making out, i put one of my legs between hers while lying on my bed and basically lay on top of her, focusing most of my weight on my hip area which rests on her crotch. In the past, doing this and moving up and down has been enough to get her off. After about a month of not doing this, and then attempting it again, we can't seem to get it anymore. She feels no pleasure from this but rather feels pain from my weight against her pubic bone no matter where i move or how i change the focus of my weight. I can't for the life of me figure it out, and she's worried that she's defective. What can we do?

Thanks,
Dan

Dear Dan,

Your girlfriend is not defective but simply needs a more direct form of clitoral stimulation that's more efficient than the old "dry humping" method. What is defective is your inability to share manual sex in a more sensible manner that would give you both pleasure with orgasms. To answer your question, "What can we do?" the first thing that comes to mind is to get over the ridiculous idea of remaining chaste until you get married, especially since you've already shared a very basic form of sex. If that's not possible then I suggest you both masturbate like sane, sexual, healthy people when you're alone. Or is that another sexual activity that's not allowed? Really, if God didn't want us to masturbate, she would have made our arms shorter.

Betty

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