Hi Betty:

How are you? Just found your site and it's very good. Maybe you can help me out. The wife and I love to masturbate. We do it alone and in front of each other. We have some toys we play with which are fun. Now here is the thing, she ordered a butt plug and wants to use it on me and have me use it on her. I have tried it and have tried it on her and we both liked it.

Here's where maybe you can help. By using the plug are we going to do any damage to our butts. It's not that big but it does open you up as it's going in. And once it's in, your butt will close on it for the end is small again. Another thing, how long can you leave the plug in you?

Like I said we both tried it and the one time my wife left it in for a few hours. Said she liked the feeling. Hope to hear from you soon. Thanks,

Hugo
26 Dec 1999

Dear Hugo, Welcome to the world of anal eroticism. If you have purchased an anal toy with a flared base that is latex rubber and smooth, you will not damage your butty holes if you use plenty of lubrication and do slow penetration. Pain is the best signal to warn us if we are hurting our bodies. Since you are both experiencing pleasure, and there is no indication that you are breaking any blood vessels, I'd say relax and enjoy. I'm sure you know how to keep your toy clean by washing it with hot soapy water after each use. Have you ever tried intercourse with your wife while she is wearing the buttplug? I've been enjoying this particular form of double penetration for the past several months and it's really hot. The important thing is to avoid letting the lubrication for the plug to drip down into her vaginal opening which might cause a urinary tract infection. To avoid this, keep a box of baby wipes handy to mop up any excess lube after anal penetration. As for the length of time the plug is left in, again let pleasure be your guide. My personal preference is to push the plug out slowly after I've had an orgasm. It seems to extend the good feelings. Congratulations on being experimental with your sexlives. Betty