Subject: Just a reader of your books who wants to say thank you
Dear Betty,

Thank you for your courage in speaking out for women and sex education. It is a subject nobody wants to talk about, but is so badly needed. Your books, videos, and products have greatly changed my life.

I am a woman, 49 years old, married 26 years, and believed sex WAS intercourse. I always felt something was missing but didn't know what. I didn't masturbate and didn't have orgasms. I didn't know what a clitoris was or what to do with it. My husband didn't have a clue as to why I didn't enjoy sex.

I have now read 34 books on sexuality. Your Sex for One and Orgasms for Two are the best because of your openness and first-hand knowledge. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I shudder to think that I might have missed this in my lifetime. I have a Hitachi Magic Wand and your videos were very helpful in learning how to use it. I needed to know how to breathe, and move, and what having an orgasm looks like. Making sounds really enhances the feelings, and I always tried to be quiet. I have the Charlie Sunshine oil and what a difference it makes. I love myself now and touch myself often.

I have your Vaginal Barbell, and that gave me something that I didn't expect. You see, I had breast implants that are now removed, resulting in 5 surgeries and my breasts and nipples are almost numb. Using the barbell creates feelings that make me lubricate greatly, and my nipples once again can get hard. What I really regret is that if I could have had good, satisfying, sexual experiences in the first place, I don't think that I would have felt the need to have implants.

Society doesn't know that not having sex information hurts us. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for changing my life. I can't believe that I used to think that sex was messy and yuck, and now just the thought of getting wet and slippery creates such wonderful feelings in me. I hadn't known about oral sex, either, but if there is a heaven, that is it. It is not strong enough stimulation to make me come, but it gives a feeling of being in a trance. It feels so wonderful that you just can't move.

Sincerely, Pamila

Dear Pamila, It's emails like yours that make all the difficult times as a radical sex educator so very worthwhile. My webmaster thinks yours is one of the best love letters I've ever received and I agree. Especially thrilling for me was to hear that your poor beleaguered nipples have come back to life after suffering breast implants and removal. Although I'm aware that using the Vaginal Barbell stimulates lubrication from my own experiences and that of others, yours is the first report on nipples. There is obviously a connection between vaginal penetration, clitoral stimulation and having orgasms that also stimulates our nipples. They naturally want to join in on all the pleasure taking place in other parts of our bodies. After many youthful years of hating my small breasts, I remember when I made a decision to begin including them in my selfloving rituals in my thirties. During masturbation I'd rub and squeeze my whole breast and lightly pinch my nipples. After some time passed, on many occasions I'd get an electric current in my right nipple just before I came. Although I no longer experience this, I still love massaging my breasts during sex and teasing those sweet pink points of pleasure. We agree on the harm done by the absence of sex information. Sexual ignorance is what gives organized religions power and control over us. If we were a society of sexually expressed people, we wouldn't be witnessing the insanity of our present government that's based on excessive greed and lust (the wrong kind) for even more power. Having lots of orgasms and lusting for more sex are ways of countering this evil. Be sure to share your good news with all your women friends. Your great email will bring hope to many many thousands of unique female visitors the world over who log into my website daily. (We won't use your real name or address.) Thank you for getting in touch and continuing to have more happy orgasms. Betty