Hi Betty,

I am a 66 year old male and in very good health. My problem is that for the last few years I have suffered from impotency. My wife and I have not had sexual relations in over 7 years and I had just about given up hope of ever being able to perform again.

I recently met a lady my age who is also married. We have been seeing each other for several months and both enjoy making love. I generally satisfy her orally and then masturbate to reach a climax. I have tried viagra but with virtually no results.

I heard you on a radio program one day returning from a meeting with my lover and decided to write to you regarding the cream that you spoke about. I think it is supposed to be applied to the woman's clit area and causes some sort of stimulation for her. I don't remember the name of it but you mentioned that you promoted it and that it was very effective.

My lady friend has a lot of trouble reaching a climax even with oral stimulation and generally only climaxes once. We are both frustrated and looking for something to spice up our relationship. She is not a big believer in masturbation and feel that I would have a problem trying to use a vibrator on her but I don't know what else I can do.

If you can offer any suggestions (even the name of the product I alluded to above) I would very much appreciate it.

Thank you very much and I do enjoy your website.

Bill

Dear Bill, The only cream I recommend is Charlie Sunshine's massage oil made of food grade oils. In other words the ingredients are pure enough to eat. As for creams advertised to enhance female sexual arousal, none of them have impressed me and studies so far show that they don't work. The absolute best thing for older women is the Magic Wand when used to its best advantage. If you order one, take time to read my instructions. Hopefully your friend will overcome her resistance to you using a vibrator on her. In fact, once she has a really big orgasm I'm sure she will change her mind. Show her this email and you could also get her my book, Sex for One which you can buy at any large bookstore for only $14.00 U.S. dollars. Also the vibrator is great for men. Unfortunately too many men think a vibrator is for women only, but that's ridiculous. The same instructions apply to you as well. After you have had a threesome with the Wand, get back to me with the good news. Betty