Dr Dodson

How can I contact a sex professional in my area? I have questions that are very important to me about the influence of aging on my capability to sexually perform. My physician does not seem to have the training or time to give me the answers to my questions. I masturbate usually once each day and sometimes more. I seem to be at a point where I am doing "soft cock" masturbation where it takes me much longer to ejaculate and the volume of my semen is significantly less and less. Is there any treatment that I can find?

I am married (18 years) and my wife has quit showing any interest in having sex (in any form). Is there a web site or individual (a professional) that provides masturbation information specifically for men? I have all three of your videos and the education they provided me is something that I should have had 30 years ago. My wife did not watch the videos and is opposed to any therapy, which will improve our marriage in this regard.

At this point my choices seem to be 1, divorce and find a more compatible wife, 2, have an affair or 3, find a masturbation friend. This is my first choice but I am not having much luck as I am concerned about privacy issues. Any ideas? Your work is wonderful. Please keep my email address confidential.

Robert

Dear Robert, If I were you, I'd go for all three of your choices. However, beware the first option. When some women want to get married, they can fake sexual passion to catch you and then gradually lose interest after they've got you. Having an affair with a sexually compatible woman is safer, and finding a masturbation friend is the safest of them all. Go to nyjacks.com for more information on male masturbation and be sure to check out their other links. To find a sex professional in your area, call AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Councilors and Therapists.) 804/644-3288. Give this number to your doctor so he can refer other clients who need sex information. Depending on the state of your health, Viagra has helped to make many a penis take a stand. If that's not an option due to medications you are taking, I strongly recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand (available from this site) for enticing a soft-on to feel about as good as it can get during masturbation. Let me know what you do so I can share the information with other men married to women who are no longer interested in having partnersex. A final note of caution: medications such as Prozac, Paxil, Zoloft, Serafin, and others are well known to kill one's libido. Betty

Dr. Dodson,

Where can I find a Magic Wand? Is that the vibrator you offer? I called the AASECT in Richmond, VA and have the name of a therapists in Virginia Beach. I will let you know how my sessions with her turn out. Thank you for your assistance.

Robert

Dear Roger: You will find a photo of the Hitachi Magic Wand by clicking on the Betty's Sex Shop page of Betty's website. Just click on the photo to get instructions on HOW TO ORDER. Regards, Grant Taylor, webmaster for Dr. Betty