Dear Betty,

I'm 47 years old and had my first orgasm with a vibrator about a month ago after watching and learning from your videotape Celebrating Orgasm. I can't thank you enough for what you have done for me. This has been a life long problem that has been like a heavy weight on my shoulders. The orgasms I have now are extremely intense and pleasurable. I just had no idea that this is what it would feel like. Also, thanks to learning from your video, I was able to have three orgasms in one session by continuing the stimulation.

I do have a question for you with regard to partner sex. I'd like to incorporate the vibrator into lovemaking with a partner, but the Hitachi Magic Wand seems like it would be rather big and inconvenient (particularly with the cord) to use with a partner. Is there any vibrator that you would recommend for partner sex? Thanks again for helping to make such a wonderful change in my life!

Sara

Dear Sara, Yours is my favorite kind of success story. Congratulations. Just as the penile glans gets consistent contact from vaginal intercourse, the clitoral glans also needs consistent contact throughout the entire act. Since your first orgasm was the result of using the Magic Wand, definitely take it to bed with you when you have partner sex. A sexually secure man will be thrilled you are taking an active role in your erotic dance. With both primary sex organs actively engaged, every thrust of his penis and contraction of your vaginal muscle will excite you both equally and you are assured of sharing the ecstasy of orgasm. Taking turns is another way both of you can have orgasms during partnersex. You can see intercourse as your arousal and his end pleasure. After he comes, you get your orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation with your vibrator while he adds to your pleasure with sensuous touching. Or the two of you might want to masturbate together and give yourself your own orgasms. Never abandon your Magic Wand for a man. Men come and go but your vibrator will remain a faithful source of orgasms. Once you start feeling secure about having an orgasm both with yourself and a partner, you could try using my Water Dancer mini-vibrator instead of the Magic Wand to see what happens. If you able to have an orgasm with yourself, try using it with a partner you are comfortable with. So if it doesn't work you can always haul out your trusty Wand. (See www.bettydodson.com/wandintercourse.htm) Tell me all about your first orgasm during partnersex with the Wand, and maybe the Water Dancer too. Betty