Dear Lisa, It’s not likely that you will ever “make” yourself relax. Since you are proficient with self-stimulation, why not share masturbation together. That way he can see how you handle your clitoris and you can see what he likes for his orgasm. Socializing your masturbation together will help you to move through barriers you are now experiencing. Don’t get caught up in worrying about his ego. Men need to let go of the idea that they “make” us come. We are all responsible for our own orgasms. After all, you’ve been successfully having your orgasms all along. Now it’s just a question of sharing your orgasm. Once both of you socialize your orgasms with masturbation, I bet you’ll have your happy ending, or should I say happy beginning? Betty