Dear Toni, Stay with your feelings of being turned on by this discovery and learning more about what turns him on. And in the process, you might also discover what turns you on sexually as well. As for porn making him more prone to drifting away or cheating, I'd say it functions as an outlet to safeguard against this. After all, what are guys doing when they watch porn? They are masturbating. Each ejaculation takes the edge of their horniness. It also keeps the male sex organ functioning by dilating the blood vessels and ejaculating which keeps their prostate gland healthy. I only wish more women had some kind of erotica that inspired them to masturbate more often. We have to realize that while there are similarities between our sexualities, men have it all over us when it comes to sexual desire and frequency of masturbation. BUT, when a woman finally does get turned on, she wants to make it a seven course meal. Most guys get it over more quickly. My hope is that women will discover and develop more active fantasy lives to enhance their own masturbation sessions. Check out my latest DVD titled Orgasmic Women: 13 Selfloving Divas. It's my version of feminist porn that I call erotic sex education. After thirty plus years of teaching sexual skills to women, I believe masturbation is the foundation of mutually orgasmic partnersex for both sexes. So get out your vibrator, throw the switch and start mentally running through your fantasy rolodex. When you find a hot scenario that puts a charge in your clitoris, go for a nice orgasm and then make a pass at your husband. Try becoming one with the internet porn: when he's at the keyboard, crawl down between his legs without a word or looking up at him, take out his penis and work it as you love most. Then, tell him the truth; that his interest in sex is a huge turn on! Then go with the flow. Betty