Dear Betty,

I'm sure this is a fairly common question, but, I have to ask. I have a recurring fantasy that I have tried to communicate to my wife. I've also tried to get her to tell me her fantasies and said that I'd help her to act them out if she wished. She claims to have none and does not wish to participate in mine. It is a simple fantasy, and fairly benign for another person to perform. Simply, I am to be tied spread eagle to the bed, (or outside in the yard, or?) and she can do anything she wants. I hoped that it would include a mercilessly tickling. I am very ticklish, and she loves to tickle me and at some point to be brought to orgasm.

We did talk about it. She said that maybe she would just tie me up and go out for the evening, and if she felt like it, come and bother me before she went to bed (in the spare room). 'Anything you want', means 'Anything you want' I said, "But I bet you wouldn't leave me like that!" I answered with a challenge. She did not take me up on my offer. Do you have any ideas on how to engage my wife? I am willing to help her fulfill ANY fantasy of hers without qualification. Also, I have on a few occasions resorted to tying myself up using cinching straps and blocks of ice as a melt link but this has some risk.

Dave