Hi Betty! *Thank you* for the feminist work that you do. I think it's incredibly important to raise self-sexual awareness. I remember writing to the White House in high school, criticizing the decision to remove then Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders for wanting to open a dialogue with teens on masturbation! I can't tell you how important your work is for women. Recently, there was some tabloid news where a guy socialite was drunkenly making fun of actress Lindsey Lohan by saying that she had a 7-foot long clit. There's still so much work to do! Suggestions on how to counteract these types of comments that make girls everywhere consider awful things like surgery? Thanks again!! It's been a journey to feel at home in my body, still working on it, and so glad to have people like you out there to help us all along. FX

Dear FX, Thanks for you words of praise. Anytime some jerk makes a comment about a woman’s dangling inner lips by calling them a 7 foot long clit, I’d simply smile and say, “Jealous, aren’t you?” The other day Eric and I were watching a movie together. He was playing with the skin on his ball sack while I was rubbing my longest inner lip. It dawned on me that we were both engaged in a comforting harmless activity with similar body parts. When I checked, our fingers both had familiar sex scents. We also play a game of tug the ball sack or inner lip when we’re nude around the apartment. I’ll be bending over when I feel him pull on my inner lip. I squeal and quickly stand up. I do the same when he bends over. It's just a friendly goofy game we play together. To the uninformed about female genital anatomy, he or she might call my labia minora a “three inch clit.” I remember back in my sexually active past, there were times a man would stimulate my inner lips obviously mistaking them for my clitoris. I always took the time to explain where my clit lived. The smart guys were grateful. The Mr. Machos just shrugged cause they were primarily interested in heading south for the hole anyway. The idea that all vulvas look like sweet little clam shells are making lots of surgeons rich and keeping lots of men on the infantile level of wanting an airbrushed center fold nude instead of a woman who is well hung! Betty