Dear Joe, Darling, masturbation is sex, and you're not crazy. Thinking about sex is also a form of sex. From my point of view, masturbating while watching your friend masturbate is also sex. In fact it's one of my favorite kinds because it allows both parties to satisfy their voyeuristic and exhibitionistic desires simultaneously which I define as hot and healthy sex. As for drinking some cum, make sure he shows you proof of STD status. For the next phase why don't you just jack each other off -- very safe. As for cheating on your wife, a better question would be who invented monogamy? Or why do couples insist upon sexual fidelity as a symbol of true love? I'm sure your JO experience has not taken anything away from your wife or your marriage. If you and your JO buddy decided to walk off into the sunset, my response would be, time to consider divorce. More than half of married couples do. By the way, "cheating" or having sex outside marriage is one way to keep our sexual interests alive. No one expects anyone to eat the same food everyday, yet when it comes to sex, we're expected to choose one person and to remain faithful. Read what I have to say about the topic in my book, "Orgasms for Two." Variety is the spice of life. That's why so many Americans (including women) pretend to be monogamous while getting all the nookie they want secretly. Betty P.S. My video "Selfloving" shows me masturbating with a Magic Wand along with 9 other women. Check it out!