Betty,

My wife & I have been married for 9 years & she used to give me an occasional blowjob (sometimes swallowing but not usually). In fact that was the first sex we had. We were in her house kissing & groping each other and she opened my pants and started blowing me while her kids were upstairs sound asleep. This time she took my load and swallowed what she could & apologized for not being able to take it all. I comforted her & told her that it was fine.

I have never been afraid to kiss her after she has blown me so I don't think that's it. She enjoys when I get down & eat her out (which I do quite often) but she won't reciprocate and suck me even if it's just as foreplay. Do you have any thoughts? I look forward to your suggestions? Thanks for taking the time and for such a great forum.

Donald, California

Dear Donald, Oh my, what we women will do to get you guys to marry us! Have your asked your wife why she no longer cares to do oralsex for you? Has the taste of your semen changed significantly with diet or some drugs you are taking? Have you tasted yourself lately? How about telling her you don't expect her swallow your load and that you won't be offended if she spits it out in a tissue. Or, ask her how she feels about just getting you hard with oralsex and you will ejaculate on your stomach. Does she combine oral with her hands? If so, she can finish you off manually after you tell her you're about to shoot. If not, suggest she do so because performing oralsex without hands can be exhausting especially once we have landed a husband. Just kidding, sort of. You might want to ask her if there is anything she would like you to do differently when you go down on her. The idea is to open up a conversation with her so you can explore how she feels about it all. Betty