Betty-

I am 67 years old and have a healthy sex drive. I stay trim by working out 3 days a week at the health club. I am active in outdoor activities. My wife is 4 years younger than me and seems to have almost no sex drive. This has been going on for about the last four years. I think I can relate this change to her surgery for hip replacement. The Dr. cautioned her about urinary tract infections after surgery. Now, when I initiate sex play or even give her more than a good night peck she pulls away. We have had sex only twice this year. I keep my sanity by masturbating most days, but I miss having a partner. Our sex life was great until the last few years. We often had sex more than once per day. My wife was multi orgasmic and I often made her come several times orally before entering her for my own pleasure.

I still care for this woman, she is the love of my life and this is driving us apart. I am considering taking a lover. I am also considering counseling, but don't know if she would agree. Is there something you could recommend? Should I find a lover, buy a Fleshlight or what?? How should I open the conversation about counseling? Thanks.

Nelson

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Dear Nelson,

Your instincts are good. Yes, ask your wife if she would consider some short term counseling just like you said it to me. Tell her honestly that you are concerned about the absence of partnersex and would like to know what she thinks both of you could do to help this situation. I had double hip replacement at age 67 and the absence of pain was heavenly. After the required three month rehab, I began exercising again. But I've had several clients since then that either misunderstood their docs or the docs were bad at explaining things. One woman believed she could only take postions they recommended right after surgery, a limitation that greatly altered their sexlife. I got down on the floor and showed her all the positions I could access with my glorius new titanium hip joints. If your wife simply doesn't want to engage in partnersex anymore, she needs to say just that. Then you can focus on getting some really good sex toys, some first rate porn and knock yourself out with all the orgasms you desire with guilt-free masturbation. You might also consider hiring a professional sex worker which is actually safer than taking a lover. An ongoing affair with another woman might jeopardize your marriage if you or she becomes emotionally involved. If you choose to have sex outside your marriage, I recommend you do this discreetly and keep your own council.

A side note. Two years after my hip replacement, I started having delicious partnersex with a much younger man. This is all in my book "Orgasms for Two." Maybe getting the book for your wife along with the Magic Wandvibrator for massage and clitoral stimulation might also help. There are drawings in the book of different postitions for partnersex and I was the model for all of them, titanium hip joints and all. It's time for her to enjoy her new flexibility.

Betty

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