Dear Never Give Up The Ship, I hear you about the “chop them up and forget them MD’s.” I was recently talking to a very healthy young 34 year old male friend of mine who has learned how to retard his ejaculations so he can last longer. He ejaculates two out of ten sessions with a partner. This is based on the Tao of Sex and used by many Tantra practitioners. He claims he is less tired after partnersex and his “body-mind” orgasms are delightful as he consciously moves the sex energy up his entire body. You might want to read Montauk Chia’s book on this subject or any of the other many books on Tantra that deal with the Eastern approach to sexuality. I used to poo poo them, but not anymore. America is in such devastating sexual decline, we all need to hold hands and work together. The idea that ejaculating is seen as the ultimate orgasm actually limits male sexuality. You might try using a vibrator on your penis (covered with a cloth to control intensity) and have the kind of orgasm more like what women experience. Forget about shooting and focus on the good feelings that ebb and flow throughout your body. Another possibility would be exploring our Aneros male anal toy. After you have explored anal eroticism on yourself, then you can have your wife massage your prostate by using her fingers or a dildo inside your bottom. I promise you will get to enjoy some lovely sensations. By all means, get my book “Orgasms for Two” and check out my suggestions for couples. I’m with you all the way , “never give up the ship.” Betty l