Dear Lida, First off, congratulations on recreating yourself as an orgasmic woman. Given your background I can imagine it took much effort and dedication. In my experience, it is quite difficult for a woman to abandon her vibrator given it was the first method of clitoral stimulation in her thirties. As for harming your baby by using a vibrator for orgasm, I've never heard reports of it. Instead of being worried, imagine the pleasant vibrations being transmitted to your little one and when you come, both of you get to enjoy the waves of pleasure as baby rocks in the fluid of your womb. I've heard of women using the wand and other masturbation methods during pregnancy with midwives as well. Many women have told me that during pregnancy the increase in hormones made them feel even more sexual. So you might try stimulating your clitoris with your own well-oiled fingers during intercourse. Or how about experimenting with oralsex if your husband agrees. The scent of your vulva will be quite pungent given all the estrogen surging through your body. Also consider getting "Orgasms For Two", and check out partner-assisted masturbation and how to include a vibrator into partnersex. The Passionette is slim and easily fits between two bodies. Just don't fret or make this into a big deal. It's only been a year since you learned how to come with your vibrator so don't put pressure on yourself now by striving to achieve the illusive vaginal orgasm during intercourse. There are good reasons it escapes most women because it does not include our sexual anatomy, but only that of men. How we have our orgasms is not the issue but rather that we are having them on a regular basis. Your baby will have the advantage of being raised by an orgasmic mother no matter how you come. Betty